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5 Ways You’re Making Conflict in Your Marriage Harder for Yourself 

On the flipside, when you constantly remind yourself that hes never going to listen, never going to change, then youre anticipating more fights. And when they come, you tend to pack a mean Aha, I knew I was right! punch. You start slinging fists because you were right about him dropping the ball.If you revel... Read more

How to Pray for Your Husband instead of Trying to Change Him

Your husband will not change overnight. And perhaps, he might not change at all.Will you trust God enough to accept that EVEN IF your husband doesnt change, you will still trust that God is in control?A beautiful story in the Bible depicts this even if statement in Daniel 3:8-30 where King Nebuchadnezzar commanded everyone to... Read more

How to View Sex as Holy, but Without Shame

Something Ive learned over the years is that, despite good intentions, most of our Christian parents didnt do the best job of talking to us about sex.Most of our parents talked to us about being sexually pure from a standpoint of avoiding consequences, rather than the goal being to bring glory to our holy God.Even... Read more

5 Ways to Bring More Joy into Your Marriage

Our world tends to be overly serious. We forget to let ourselves relax and have fun. Think back to the last time you had a really good laugh with a friend or your spouse and how good it made you feel. Its been proven laughter can relieve tension and stress, boost your immune system, release dopamine... Read more

9 Romantic Ways to Get the Quality Time You Need, Even during COVID

Whether you reserve a spot at a campsite or blow up the air mattress and pitch a tent in the yard, camping is one way to appreciate the outdoors with a measure of privacy.If youre at a campsite, bask in Gods creations by observing the wildlife around you, taking a walk in nature at sunset,... Read more

10 Scriptures Singles Need to Guide Their Dating Decisions

Betsy St. Amant Haddox iBelieve Contributing Writer Dating can often feel like navigating a field dotted with land mines. One false move, and youre in serious trouble! Whether youre naturally a cautious planner or an impulsive thrill-seeker, dating can be exhausting and discouraging. There are many ditches to fall into on both sides of the... Read more

7 Things to Do When You Know You’ve Made a Mistake

Crystal Caudill iBelieve Contributing Writer The question is not what should we do if we make a mistake, but when we make a mistake. Mistakes are normal, but that doesn't mean we should ignore the issue. Here are seven things to do to restore your life and relationships when you realize you've made a mistake.1.... Read more

4 Keys to Loving Someone When They Get Angry

4. Help Them Process and Prepare When my wife and I are about to drive in rush-hour traffic, she will regularly pull me aside before we get into the car and say, Jol, we are about to hit heavy traffic. Prepare yourself. Its going to be ok. It sounds silly, but that little reminder helps... Read more

3 Ways Elder and Younger People Should Honor One Another

Elders need those who are younger to lovingly listen, respect, and connect with them. Younger folks need those of us who are older to let go, keep up, and show more of Jesus. My doctor started it. Medical charts don't lie. He knows how old I am. I've tried all of the tricks: Photoshop edits,... Read more

Is It Possible to Be Addicted to a Person?

All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be enslaved by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12If its not good for man to be alone, and if close relationships are the ideal, can you really be addicted to another person? It seems like... Read more

Who Taught You How to Date?

Be honest, who taught you how to date? My husband, Damien, and I were blessed. We both grew up as preacher's kids and in a two parent household. However, to be honest with you, we were never sat down and taught formally (or even causally) on how to date God’s way. Yes, even in a... Read more

What Does the Bible Say about Neglecting Your Wife?

A husbands is to stay faithful to his wife and not divorce her.Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth (Proverbs 5:18 ESV)Husbands are to be content and stay satisfied with their wives, even as they grow older and are less physically attractive, according to the worlds standards.Husbands, love your wives, and do not be... Read more

Should Parents Be More Vulnerable with Their Children?

4. Immerse Them in Scripture and Prayer In our constantly changing culture, we may feel intimidated by all our children face and encounter. Out of self-protection, this might motivate us to disengage. There are so many outside forces seeking to leave impressions on our children. There are teachers, classmates, coaches, teammates, and mentors. Add to that... Read more

10 Ways the Church Can Speak Love to Black and Brown Brothers and Sisters

As I sat in a home Bible study with two other couples, I wrestled with the question the host asked.He read an article that stated a certain percentage of people say they experience discrimination. He posed the question: How do they know? I pondered why he asked. Was this question a result of ignorance? Was... Read more

6 Encouraging Ways to Be a Better Wife

I didnt grow up dreaming of a fairy tale wedding or getting married. I was too busy dreaming of a CEO by day and a writer by night.I thought if I got married, I would lose myself amidst the mundane of chores, kids, and housework. I was the second oldest of six kids and I... Read more

9 Benefits of Worshiping during ‘Why, God’ Trials

When our prayers are being answered, when the test results are the ones weve prayed for, or when we get that job we really needed, we look up and praise God and have no problem worshipping him. But is that conditional worship? If God does what we want... then Hes worthy of praise? No. God is... Read more

10 Cliques That Exist in Every Church

Any community of people is bound to have a problem with cliques, and the church is no exception. But before you get up in arms at the idea of church members screaming "You can't sit with us!" across the sanctuary (Mean Girls, anyone?!), please know that cliques aren't all bad. A clique is merely a... Read more

How to Love an Invisible God

4. Give Thanks Dont you just love to hear the phrase, Thank you? Imagine how God feels hearing our appreciation for His many blessings in life.Therefore I will give thanks to you among the nations, Lord; I will sing praises about your name. (Psalm 18:49)Showing appreciation to God is like a child showing appreciation to... Read more

Why Are Some Christians So Fearful of Sex When They Get Married?

For some Christians, its uncomfortable to have open conversations about sex, especially when they are fearful or doubtful about what will be expected when they get married. Often, theyve been raised in homes where their parents taught them how to balance a budget, how to change a tire, and how to do the laundry, but... Read more

5 Things God Expects from Every Man

It is tough being a man in our world todayespecially in a culture that is not sure what manhood even means. There are so many differing opinions, definitions, and expectations of what a man should be like. The weight is heavy, and the responsibility is immense.However, as men, we were created and designed by God... Read more

How to Find Your Way Out of Relationship Dysfunction

6. Be Gentle This was an important lesson I learned this year when striving to improve my communication. Gentleness can turn an argument into a casual conversation.Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep... Read more

How to Know When Loneliness Has Turned into Something Deeper

It started in late April. This feeling of loneliness overtook me, and I realized I hadnt hugged anyone outside the walls of our home in over six weeks. The thing is, Im not even a big hugger. I like affection, but most would describe me as an introvert. However, knowing I couldnt be with those... Read more

How to Keep Good Boundaries with Your Ex after Divorce

What are boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud, an author of the book Boundaries, says,Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me... Read more

10 Problems of the Heart That Leave You Feeling Stuck

I will admit, I struggle with anger. Not so much now as I did in childhood, but the wrong word at the wrong time can leave me highly upset. Ive learned to walk away, but walking away doesnt erase the anger felt on the inside.Be angry and do not sin. Dont let the sun go... Read more

5 Truths about Marriage: What Every Bride Needs to Know before Marrying

A long time ago, in the Garden of Eden, marriage was created and established by God. As Genesis 2:24, explains, That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.However since then, Gods beautifully designed union between a man and a woman has been... Read more

10 Reasons You Might be Uncomfortable Talking about Race

It is the elephant in the room. You know it is there, but you silently hope the topic would disappear. Race is here and it is not going away. Education, advocacy, and open, honest dialogue is needed for growth and sustained change to occur. In recent months, there have been global protests, cries for justice... Read more

What Should a Wife Do When Her Husband Is Cruel?

1 Samuel 25:3 introduces us to Abigail and her husband. His name was Nabal and his wifes name was Abigail. She was an intelligent and beautiful woman, but her husband was surly and mean in his dealingshe was a Calebite.Other than the above, we arent told much about Abigail, as she is mentioned in connection... Read more

How to Heal Codependency in Marriage

Marriage is a place where our strengths and weaknesses come more clearly into view. As we grow up and grow together as couples; we start to discover new things about ourselves! Proverbs 27:17 says, As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.Marriage is one of the most beautiful and effective ways God uses individuals... Read more

What Is Cancel Culture and How Should Christians Respond to It?

The act of canceling ultimately calls for cutting a person, business, or organization off completely. In most cases, public apologies are no longer accepted. There is no corrective course of action. And anyone who continues to support something thats been canceled is also publicly outed and canceled.Cancel Culture is unforgiving. Living in a constant brood... Read more

How to Survive the First Year of Grieving a Loved One

This article is based on the book, Hurricane of Love.My two daughters were hugging my wife, Beth, and I was holding all three of them in my arms, when Beth took her last breath on October 30, 2015 at 2:40p.m. We had three years to consider the possibility that this day would come. Still, there... Read more