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10 Things Black Brothers and Sisters Most Need to Hear from the Church

As a Christian, I have always felt that regardless of the color of my skin, the church would be a safe place. I imagined there would be no discrimination, no hierarchy based on race, no infiltration of laws that diminished Black people. Perhaps this was all in my imagination, because though I know this is... Read more

11 Verses on Racism and Prejudice to Teach Us True Love

The evils of racism have been woven into our world throughout history, and tragically, still affect many lives today. Its real. Divisive. Oppressive. Hate-filled. And it grieves the heart of God who made us and loves us all. To stand strong against racism and to pray for unity and love among us is not only... Read more

6 Signs That Its Time to Define the Relationship

When it comes to dating relationships, one of the toughest conversations occurs when we must define the relationship. Learning where the other person stands within the relationship is essential. Lack of communication here can cause confusion and undue stress on both parties. Being clear on whether the relationship is a just a friendship, dating casually, or... Read more

8 Ways Shame Undermines a Marriage

Becky Beresford Author. Speaker. Dreamer. Its no secret marriage is a beautiful but hard adventure. When I first got married, I assumed there would be a magic switch that would transform us into people who loved, listened and learned well. But this wasnt the case. In fact, it was the complete opposite.I didnt take into... Read more

A Prayer to Soften Our Hearts for the Vulnerable

Last week, my children and I went to deliver food to families in need. The temperature was in the high nineties. Between the heat and the masks protecting each of the families from Covid-19, the tasks solicited a few complaints from my daughter. Why do we have to do this, Mom? she questioned as we... Read more

5 Reasons I Pray for My Husband Every Day

Do you pray for your husband? Even if you arent married yet, you can and should cover his life in prayer. If you havent yet begun to pray, take these 5 prayer points and begin to lift your husband or future husband to the Lord. You will see answers, whether now or in the future,... Read more

29 Inspiring Quotes and Verses to Strengthen Your Relationship

Looking for the best marriage quotes? You are in the right place.Marriage is one of the greatest blessings in life. Everyday is an adventure between mundane moments of sipping coffee in the kitchen or sweaty nights between the sheets. Marriage is executing a united front as parental units with secret high fives behind closed doors... Read more

August Scripture Writing Guide (2020)

Scripture writing plans are incredibly simple, yet incredibly effective for helping us read, interpret and absorb the Word of God. Rather than simply letting our eyes pass over a verse and perhaps miss its full meaning, writing Scripture down helps us absorb each word and really think through what the passage before us is saying.Each... Read more

A Guide to What the Bible Really Says about Divorce

Divorce is the death of a marriage, and it produces both loss and grief. The Bible uses strong language when discussing divorce; Malachi 2:16 says:The man who hates and divorces his wife, says the LORD, the God of Israel, does violence to the one he should protect, says the LORD Almighty. So be on your... Read more

What to Do When a Loved One “Comes Out”

This is where it gets practical and personal. Your loved one (like all of us) needs community, a family . . . and hope. Where better to experience these things than around your dinner table, in your church, and in the everyday stuff of life? This is especially important if theyve already experienced rejection from... Read more

5 Sure Signs You are Ready For a Relationship

I trust you! I heard these exact words as I laid in bed one day while struggling with my singleness. I felt elated because I knew God was about to do something special in my life. I just didnt know exactly what. I called my accountability partner and told him what I believed the Lord... Read more

Should Same-Sex Unions Be Recognized in the Church?

You might think that with killer germs, racial tensions, church and school closuresand political wars captivating public attentionother hot topic issues that truly demand a biblical response from the church might have been placed on the back burner. But youd be wrong.Even with many churches shutting their doors and scrambling to find their equilibrium in... Read more

Do We Have Freedom or Responsibility to Wear Face Masks during COVID-19?

3. Are Your Actions Considerate of the Most Vulnerable in Our Communities? Matthew 25:40 says, And the King will answer them, Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.Over the past months we have found that certain groups are more... Read more

10 Ways to Rebuild Trust in a Marriage on the Rocks

Heather Riggleman Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer Trust is the bedrock of marriage. But what do you do if trust has been damaged or completely obliterated? I found myself asking that same question 18 months ago in my counselors office. I knew I had forgiven my husband for breaking my trust but neither one of us knew... Read more

10 Reasons Why No One Listens to Each Other Anymore

Most Christians and a lot of non-Christians can quote James 1:19: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Yet, this scripture is one of the most challenging commands to heed. We are more likely to speak quickly, become angry in a heartbeat, and listen as a last resort.... Read more

How Do I Know If Im Ready to Marry?

Betsy St. Amant Haddox iBelieve Contributing Writer How many bridesmaids will you have? What color-scheme do you want for your wedding? What will your wedding dress look like?These are questions that many young women are ready to answer at any given momenteven if theyre not currently in a dating relationship. Little girls frequently dress up... Read more

5 Signs That You’re the Taker in the Relationship

Joanna Teigen Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer Remember when you first fell in love? Your relationship felt like the most exciting, rewarding part of your life.From the moment you woke up in the morning until your head hit the pillow, you were focused on your love. As you discovered each others favorite things, you treated each other... Read more

10 Things We Got Right in 50 Years of Marriage

In our fairly miserable North Carolina years (the late 1980s), when a few sick church members were harassing us and some nicer ones were pressuring us to leave, we developed a practice which I've recommended to pastors ever since. We had a time on the back porch every afternoon to discuss, fuss, and/or cuss. We... Read more

10 Great Ways Wives Can Serve Their Husbands (Yes, Serve!)

As women, we like to be noticed by our husbands. We appreciate being told how nice we look or what a good job weve done with a project. But our men need noticing too. They need us to see how hard they work, how valuable they are, and how they are making an impact on... Read more

4 Hard Conversations You Need to Have before You Say “I Do”

4. How will we handle extended family? When two people come together, they are bringing with them a lifetime of culture, traditions, and ways of life. For example, one person may come from a loud, large, and emotive family accustomed to high-energy dinners and vacations. Their partner might have been raised in a quiet, calm... Read more

A Prayer for a Spouse Who Wont Communicate

Dear Lord,We feel defeated. Tired of striving for perfection, in ourselves and our marriages. Marriage is hard, help us remember the gift it can also be. The conflicts and communication problems are overwhelming.  May they be an invitation into a deeper connection, a thriving marriage.It is easy to put others on pedestals, especially our spouses.... Read more

A Prayer of Courage for Greater Honesty with Your Spouse

Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. (Colossians 3:9-10)There are those who find it easy to be brutally honest (sometimes too honest) with their spouses, and have... Read more

Who Is My Neighbor? How Jesus Calls Out Passivity

From the time I could speak, I watched Mr. Rogers Neighborhood. One of my first sentences was, Hi neighbor. Much of my childhood was spent visiting my neighbors on my street. I had a very concrete idea of who my neighbors were until I began to really study Scripture.When asked what the greatest commandment is,... Read more

Where Is God in a Broken Marriage?

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling. (Psalm 46:1-3)Theres a lot to be afraid of when you find yourself in a broken marriage. Financial fears. Custody fears.... Read more

7 Things You Need to Know When Talking with Difficult People

Most of us dont like to be taught or corrected. This can prick our pride and fear of rejection. Plus, many of us, as well as our opponents, readily see our flaws and strive desperately to hide them from others. Confrontation can make us feel exposed, and, if we dont fully understand grace, condemned. When... Read more

How to Set Yourself Up for a Great Marriage

Betsy de Cruz Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer Friends of ours love to tell the story of how they got married just two weeks after they met and actually survived to tell about it. By Gods grace, theyve stayed married over 50 years, but my friend says, I wouldnt recommend it to anyone. It was a nightmare,... Read more

Will God Tell Me if He Doesnt Want Me Dating Someone?

Have you ever wished you could open the Bible and see a direct answer to your dating questions? Does God want me to date this person? The Bible is living and active, and completely sufficient for everything we need to live our lives as followers of Christ. However, some answers dont come first without a... Read more

20 Ways to Cultivate the Lifelong Friendships You Long For

If your friend can never meet all your needs, if your expectations of them are too high, it will be difficult to be friends with you. It is easy to really get along well with someone and then hope theyll make you happy, that theyll fill a spot where something is missing in your life.... Read more

3 Powerful Prayers about Anger

We know from reading Scripture that God grows angryHe was furious when His people forgot Him and crafted idols (Deuteronomy 21:19), when Solomon turned his heart away (1 Kings 11:9), and when the Israelites and Judeans refused to listen to His commands (Jeremiah 32:31-33). Jesus grew angry when the people used Gods temple for personal... Read more

10 Red Flags You Shouldn’t Ignore When You’re Dating

They say that hindsight is 20/20, and that cant be more true as you look back on dating relationships from the past. When the relationship ended, you probably felt devastated. The pain made your heart break, and you wondered if it would ever heal. After all, breakups are like a death and have to be... Read more